Words To Reflect On

If I get dementia, I want my friends and family to embrace my reality. If I think my spouse is still alive, or if I think we’re visiting my parents for dinner, let me believe those things, I’ll be much happier for it.

If I get dementia, I don’t want to be treated like a child. Talk to me like the adult that I am.

If I get dementia, I still want to enjoy the things that I’ve always enjoyed. HELP ME find a way to exercise, read and visit with friends.

If I get dementia, ask me to tell you a story from my past.

If I get dementia and I become agitated, take the time to figure out what is bothering me.

If I get dementia, treat me the way you would want to be treated.

If I get dementia, make sure that there are plenty of snacks for me in the house. If I have dementia, I may have trouble explaining that I am hungry.

If I get dementia, don’t talk about me as if I’m not in the room.

If I get dementia, don’t feel guilty if you cannot care for 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It’s not your fault and you’ve done your best. Find someone who can help you, or choose a great new place for me to live.

If I get dementia and I live in a dementia care facility, please visit me often.

If I get dementia, don’t act frustrated if I mix up names, events or places. Take a deep breath. It’s not my fault.

If I get dementia, make sure I always have my favourite music playing within earshot.

If I get dementia and I like to pick up items and carry them around, help me return those items to their original places.

If I get dementia, don’t exclude me from parties and family gatherings.

If I get dementia, know that I still like receiving hugs or handshakes.

If I get dementia, remember that I am still the person you know and love.